Friday, July 31, 2009

Sorting Out The Personal Property

Always got to deal with the personal property.

I understand dividing personal property may not loom large in most people's mind. But it is the one thing that will occur in all divorces. Not everyone has real estate. Not every case will have children with their issues of custody, visitation and child support. Everyone has personal property.

Most people tell me they own nothing. Yes, they do. We got our property law from the English. They divided property into two large categories: land (real estate) and everything else (personal property). Clothes, cars, CD's, pots and pans, and IBM stock are all personal property.

When you get thinking about personal property, I suggest thinking about what Los Angeles Divorce and Family Law wrote in its Money and Divorce

Your best option is to be as honest as possible – don’t try to hide your assets – no matter how badly you’d hate to share them with your ex – as this will only take more time and money to sort out and is TOTALLY ILLEGAL.

Failing to agree over the division of family assets (such as the family home, a business and pension funds), child custody and support and even personal items like CD collections or pets can also cause fees to skyrocket, especially if both parties reach a stalemate over who gets to keep Harry the hamster



Indiana law presumes a 50-50 division of property and personal property goes into calculating that 50-50 split.

Indiana Forms on JD Supra

I have begun uploading my family law forms onto the JD Supra site. These are the same forms I use in HotDocs. You can go here to see them.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Open Courts and Reporting on Proceedings

Reading Pink Tape's Writing About Family Proceedings – A Blogger’s Guide made consider the differences between England and Indiana. The rules here are much simpler. What does seem where both jurisdictions similar is in naming children. Our juvenile courts are not always open to the public. On the other hand, there seems to be a serious penalty for violating the English statute while I cannot find a similar penalty for Indiana.

What Your Lawyer Expects From You

Although I do not care for the site's name, Best/Cheap divorce lawyers, I have to admit that its What your lawyer expects from you is very good and especially its rules:

Rule 1: Everything is not an emergency; your divorce lawyer is not on call 24 hours a day.
Rule 2: Your family lawyer is not a psychologist.
Rule 3: Communicate honestly with your lawyer.
Rule 4: This is not L.A. Law — don’t expect your divorce lawyer to do something just because you saw it on TV.
Rule 5: Your family lawyer didn’t create and can’t change the system.
Do read the full article.

I have been putting out my Divorce Handbook for my clients so that they know what is and is not an emergency. Not every attorney does that but they should tell you what to expect and to understand what you are going through. (If they are not, then ask why they are not). That also helps out with Rule 4.

I cannot understate the importance of Rule 3. My job is to take of the bad things (after all, the good things take care of themselves). If I do not know what and where the problems are, then the client is keeping me from doing the job I was hired for.

I probably should not be as surprised as I am by people who do not understand that the General Assembly has passed laws that are carried out in the courts. I cannot change the law, neither can the judges. Neither can we just ignore those laws. If you do not like the law, please tell your State Representative or your State Senator.

By the way, I think there is a connection between Rule 2 and 5. Most of the problems between the parties cannot actually be treated by the legal system. Do not even let me start on the failings of the child custody part of the family law proceedings. The system was inherited from the courts of equity (for wanting to know about equity read this or this) who inherited it from the ecclesiastical courts and all that happened long before the word psychological got in any dictionary. We are good at dividing property but that was always a talent of the law courts.

Prenuptial Agreements for the Family

Here is an unpleasant problem: parent's estate planning consists solely of trusting to step-parent to care for parent's children but the step-parent ignores the parent's children after the parent's death. Hard to tell the children that parent screwed up and (usually) nothing can be done- there is such a welling of emotions ranging from incredulity to anger to resentment.


The Golden Scribe's Prenuptial Agreements to Protect the Family does a good job of explaining the problem and its solution:


"One issue that should be addressed in a prenuptial agreement is: who will inherit the couple’s money if both should die? Another important concern to consider and address in a prenuptial agreement is: how will the biological children of one party be affected if that person should die? In other words, if Bill has two kids and he marries Lorie, what will happen to Bill’s kids if he should die? Will Lorie continue to provide for them? Or, will they be left to fend for themselves? Of course, no parent wants the latter for his children.

A step-parent has no legal obligation to care for children after the death of the spouse. Therefore, a prenuptial agreement can ensure that the children of the biological parent are still cared for after the parent’s death. Issues such as inheritance and life insurance, and who the beneficiaries are of both, should be included within the prenuptial agreement. Therefore, a person with children who is getting married should consider a prenuptial agreement in order to secure a strong future for the children."
Now, if we could just get people to listen and act to prevent unpleasant surprises to their children.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

News: Indiana Court of Appeals - How To Divide Property

This just in from The Indiana Lawyer. Third time may be the charm for the trial court to divide the marital estate.

Court failed to include all assets in marital pot
For the second time in the same case, the Indiana Court of Appeals reversed a trial court's division of assets in a marital dissolution because the trial court excluded from the marital pot the property the parties brought into marriage.

In Lori (Faust) Montgomery v. Dennis Faust, No. 85A04-091-CV-32, Lori Montgomery appealed the trial court's ruling on remand that excluded land and a car owned by Dennis Faust from the marital pot. The trial court excluded the same property in its original ruling on the dissolution, but the Court of Appeals remanded with instructions to put all the marital property into the marital pot before determining the appropriate division.


For Lawyers - FOIA Requests

Not having needed to do a Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) request in a family law case so far, I found this post from UPDATES IN MICHIGAN FAMILY LAW, Jeanne's Toolbox - FOIA Requests as intriguing addition to traditional discovery:

Family lawyers often need public records. Sometimes there are police reports or protective service worker's reports that can be helpful or harmful to a client. Either way, to be fully prepared for a custody or parenting time hearing, you've got to have them.

Other times, you may need information about a serviceperson in the armed services.

The Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) compels the agency or governmental department holding the records to produce them within ten days of the request.

Here's a very easy tool to use to generate a FOIA request. It even writes the letter for you! This is compliments of the Reporters Committee for Freedom of the Press.


Changing Out of State Support Orders in Indiana - Talking About UIFSA

Another lawyer had a a pending case dealing with an out of state child support payor when I first read New York Divorce and Family Law Blog's Out-Of -State Support Orders Cannot Be Modified in New York :

In this day and age in which parties obtain an order regarding child support in one state and then move to another jurisdiction, it is important to know that the original support order cannot be modified or even extended by a court in the second state, so said the New York Court of Appeals in the case Spencer v. Spencer.

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The Court of Appeals declined to modify the Connecticut order or to extend Mr. Spencer’s obligation to pay support.

Under the Full Faith and Credit for Child Support Orders Act (FFCCSOS) and the Uniform Interstate Family Support Act (UIFSA), “the state issuing a child support order retains continuing, exclusive jurisdiction over its child support orders so long as an individual contestant continues to reside in the issuing state [28 USC §1738B(d) and Family Court Act §580-205]

Because the respondent continued to reside in Connecticut, the state which issued the original child support order, Connecticut retained continuing and exclusive jurisdiction, even though support for the eldest son terminated upon his reaching 18 years of age. Thus, any change to the respondent’s obligations imposed by New York would constitute an impermissible exercise of jurisdiction modifying the Connecticut order, a clear violation of FFCCSOS and UIFSA.
Indiana had incorporated the UIFSA into the Indiana Code here. I see no reason that the same reasoning that applied in New York will work in Indiana. That is the charm of uniform laws.

As for the local case, it appears that the out-of-state payor had voluntarily paid through Indiana on an Indiana order and the trial judge has upheld the enforcement of child support through Indiana. An appeal is expected.

Can you keep your married name after a divorce?

Reading Massachusetts Divorce and Wills Lawyer Blog's Name Change During a Divorce and I thought how this applies to Indiana:

Many women assume their husband’s last name when they get married. As a result, when they get divorced from their husbands, most want to change it back to their maiden name. There are two options: you can either change it back to a maiden (or any other name) or you could keep your soon-to-be-ex husband’s name. Contrary to what some people might say, you’re not required to give up your ex-husband’s last name.
I have not written explicitly about this subject on this blog. Nothing in the quote above does not apply to Indiana. So far, so good there.

What if the husband wants the wife's name changed? No luck. Indiana law leaves that choice to the woman:
IC 31-15-2-18
Name change of woman
A woman who desires the restoration of her maiden or previous married name must set out the name she desires to be restored to her in her petition for dissolution as part of the relief sought. The court shall grant the name change upon entering the decree of dissolution.

What if the woman wants her name restored but is not the one filing the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage?

My only suggestion is that she file a counter-petition. See IC 31-15-2-9.


What if the woman keeps her married name and then changes her mind?


The woman will get no help if the Decree of Dissolution has been signed off on by the judge. However, Indiana has a legal action for change of name. See my article Changing your mind about not changing your name? and IC 34-28-2.



Do I handle change of name cases?

Yes, I do.

Office News: Truly Solo for Now

As of yesterday, I no longer have a secretary. Mary decided that her working a second job was just getting too much of a stretch. We have been trying to deal with this problem since mid-May. As I am also trying to move into a new apartment this week, things are a bit of a mess here.

At this point, I have a large stack of documents to process as well documents I need to prepare. This means a bit of a very large slow down in the office.

About the only good news I have to pass along is that the sinus/ear infection seems to have finally passed yesterday. It keep me off my feet yesterday afternoon.

Please be patient, I am working as quickly as possible. This does mean that there may be several corrections in my calendar for the next month.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Problems with Your Lawyer?

We all have problems in the attorney-client relationship. Sometimes they are minor and sometimes they are not. Dick Price of the Divorce and Family Law in Tarrant County, Texas blog published If You Don't Agree with Your Attorney and I think it worth passing along to potential clients. Here are some key points:

1. Have a discussion. Sometimes the attorney-client relationship is generally fine, but a small problem or disagreement comes up. If it's important to you, talk to your attorney about it. It could be a simple misunderstanding which can be easily fixed. On the other hand, it could be a sign of a major problem and you shouldn't put off dealing with it. Don't let your concern fester and build up. Please address it early on so it can be resolved in some fashion.

2. Get a second opinion. Consult another professional. Most attorneys will not talk with you while you are represented by another attorney, but there may be some things you can discuss with a CPA, a counselor or some other professional. You can research some issues, but there are a lot of limitations and pitfalls involved if you do your own research on the Internet, so I hesitate to suggest it.

3. Change attorneys. There are plenty of attorneys around. If you are unhappy with the job your attorney is doing, it is probably better for both you and your attorney for you to change attorneys. You may have a quality attorney, but there just may not be a good chemistry. Just because the attorney worked well with a friend of yours doesn't mean that the attorney will work well with you. Different personalities may not blend into an effective working relationship. Sometimes communication styles aren't as comfortable for one person as they may be for another. Just change attorneys so that you are satisfied. By the way, an attorney may want to terminate a representation relationship for the same reasons.
I have had cases with clients that I liked go sideways. I not quite sure why even though my secretary thinks the problem is that the clients took advantage of a situation. The two did share a common characteristic: they disliked reminders that they were behind on paying their fees and got very heated when they were so reminded.

Along similar lines Associated Content published Tips for the Lawyer's Client: When to Fire Your Attorney under the byline of From the Desk of an Experienced Attorney:
Failure to communicate. If your attorney fails to properly communicate with you, it is time to fire your attorney. If he or she does not timely return telephone calls or keep you apprised of important developments in your case, you need to find yourself a new lawyer or law firm. Failure to return calls, in fact, is the basis for most grievances against attorneys with their state bar associations. A lawyer's failure to communicate with his or her client is simply unacceptable, and it is a perfectly good reason for discharge.

Overbilling. When many clients receive their monthly accounting from their attorneys, their jaw drops. Most clients do not realize that they are being charged for every single telephone call, every facsimile, every time your lawyer sneezes while thinking about your case. Lawyers also have a terrible tendency to round up. If you feel you are being overbilled by your attorney, do not sit back and take it. Overbilling is a nasty practice in the legal world, and it should not be countenanced. Fire your attorney, then file for a fee arbitration to recover some of what you were overbilled.

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Stalling. If you feel that your case should be moving forward but it isn't, it may be time to fire your attorney. This happens a lot, particularly in personal injury cases, where a lawyer need not file suit for years, until the statute of limitations is about to expire. If you feel your case isn't moving forward properly, ask questions of your attorney. Get a tentative timetable. If you are not satisfied with your lawyer's answers, fire him and retain a new attorney.


So You Are Living Together? What Can Go Wrong?

Lots. Most of it can unpleasant if not properly planned for by you and your significant other.

Indiana has no protection for couples living together who do not take specific actions (now, dear reader, you see why I have been posted about legislation in other locales). Indiana does not recognize common law marriages.

The following comes from the Madeline Stowe Blog, and although she is writing of an English case, I do not see any different outcome if this had been an Indiana case:

I have decided to write about it precisely because it is an “everyday” case, not a glamorous one at all. The facts are unremarkable. The man and woman lived together for 27 years and had two children. Their family home was registered in the man’s name only. The man also had three children from a previous marriage.

Like most couples, both parties worked. He earned far more than she did, but both contributed fully to the household expenses. Then, aged 54, the man unexpectedly and suddenly died from a heart attack. He died ‘intestate’, meaning that he left no will.

For the woman this was a disaster - not only emotionally, but also legally. Had she been his wife she would have been entitled to inherit her share of the estate, automatically under the intestacy laws. (Please note that there is no substitute for making a will - see below.)

She discovered that as an unmarried cohabitant, she was not automatically entitled to anything. Because he left no will and was not married, his partner was not his next of kin. Therefore, nothing passed to her in law. Instead, the man’s next of kin in law were his five children.

What could the woman do? There followed distressing and ruinously expensive contested litigation in the Chancery Division, which included consideration of her intimate relationship with the man and an action against her own children. Her lawyers tried to persuade the court that under property law, she had acquired a joint interest in the family home. All her efforts failed. The judge found there was never a common intention that the property should be held jointly.

Ms. Stowe provides a short checklist I approve of but to which I would add a small note - consider what property needs to be held jointly.

If you are going to live together, then do it right. Call a lawyer to make sure both of you are protected.

Indiana Divorce Law: Bonds for Securing Property Divisions

Bonds, the General Assembly seems to have been bond happy at some time in its past. I made this point in regarding custody bonds and I see no reason why the same point about legislative fossils does not apply here.

However, unlike true fossils these bonds could have life to them.

Let us look first at the statute:

31-15-7-8 Security, bond or other guarantee of division of property

Upon entering an order under this chapter, the court may provide for the security, bond, or other guarantee that is satisfactory to the court to secure the division of property.
Okay, notice that it is a may and not a shall. Which means that even ordering a bond is left to the court's discretion. Then, if the court does order a bond, the amount remains at the discretion of the court. For laypersons, this means if the trial judge does not order a bond, the Court of Appeals will not find they did anything wrong. Also, if the trial court did order a bond, the amount of the bond will generally not be overturned by the Court of Appeals.

For the lawyers, you will want to read Wilson v. Wilson, 409 N.E.2d 1169 (Ind.App. 1980) and In re Marriage of Davis , 182 Ind.App. 342, 395 N.E.2d 1254 (1979) trans. denied.

Looking back at my practice, I cannot think of a case where a bond could have been used for any great effect. Looking at other areas in which I practice, I have had problems locally finding a bond for a preliminary injunction. I suspect the same problem would occur with finding a bond for these type of cases.

Then, too, there are clients who will not want to pay the cost of a bond. Odd, I am recalling when I started what seems now a large number of cases where insurance was ordered as security for payment of child support (yes, there is a bond statute for child support) but I cannot recall seeing this kind of order in years and years. Which I think says something about our local economy.

For cases where a bond might be useful but unaffordable, I am thinking that a lien would get the same result. See my article Indiana Divorce Case Law: Liens and Property Division.

Monday, July 27, 2009

What Indiana Needs? An I-Phone Child Support Calculator

Jimmy Verner down in Texas has designed a child support calculator for Texas. Check out his site here. I certainly do not have the skills to do this and so I pass it along to those who might,

Complaining About Indiana Courts

Let us face facts, our courts are overworked, undermanned, and poorly funded.

What some people think the courts are capable of - the court cannot do (and in some cases, should not do). For example, the courts do not act as policeman in family law cases.

Still one would like to think that our courts are not an open embarrassment. As this report on an Illinois case shows, I might be overly optimistic. The appellate opinion does what the article did not and names the court: Hendricks Circuit Court.

No return telephone call? Ridiculous. I am glad I did not have to explain that to my clients.

Then we have The Indianapolis Business Journal reporting Lawmaker critical of court network's progress:

An effort to put all the state's courts on the same computerized case-management system and make court records available free online has reached only nine counties after seven years.

Supporters say the task is overwhelming and progress has been made despite a five-year false start. But at least one key lawmaker believes it's time to re-evaluate the project, which has cost the state about $20 million so far.

"That's not a very high performance level," Sen. Luke Kenley (R-Noblesville), chairman of the Senate Appropriations Committee, told The Journal Gazette of Fort Wayne. "I think we need to re-evaluate the project as far as where we are going and what we are going to do."

The project's goal is to equip all the state's courts and clerks with a computer system to manage cases, connect court systems with each other, police and state agencies, and make records available on the Internet.

Pay attention to two particular phrases: "manage cases" and "make records available on the Internet".

I know Marion, Madison, Grant, Henry, and Delaware Counties are not on this system. Pretty sure that Hamilton and Howard Counties are not on the system. Which leaves most of Indiana's population off the system. I have no idea how the courts in these counties manage their cases except by something like guesswork and juggling.

If you are wondering why it takes so long to get a court date, if you wonder why it takes so long to get a judgment, I suggest not all the blame falls on the lawyers. I do not think that the blame even belongs on many judges. Blame, if that is what is needed, falls on not funding the Indiana judiciary to meet the 21st century.

From Egg Donation and Surrogacy Blog: Who is Entitled to Be a Parent?

I say that is a damned good question and too similar to a conversation I had with a friend on the 21st. Which caused Egg Donation and Surrogacy Blog's Who is Entitled to Becoming a Parent? Does Age, Marital Status or Sexual Orientation Matter? to hit home pretty hard. While Egg Donation and Surrogacy Blog's focus touches on this blog's subject only a bit, I suggest that that post be read in full as the issues raised there do apply beyond IVF and adoption. I also suggest reading in full for the arguments made are too complex to be easily summarized. Here is one point made:

Now, for those of us who have families, we may or may not have walked in the shoes of those that cannot have children on their own without the help of medical intervention or adoption. But, I will tell you that I am not any more entitled to having my children than Michael Jackson or even Maria del Carmen Brousada. Why, you may ask? Because having a family is something that is inate in all of us - albeit some stronger than others. And, when I have stated in the past that it is a biological imperative, I do not mean the need to pass on genes - I mean the inate human desire deep in our DNA to have a family - to be a part of something bigger than ourselves.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Gay/Lesbian Issues in Indiana Family Law

The Ohio Law Blog's Are Gay and Lesbian Couples Disadvantaged When Seeking Custody in Ohio? lead me to consider what is the situation in Indiana. I think we are somewhat different from Ohio. Indiana appellate courts have disdained finding a parent's homosexuality in and of itself as proof that the parent is not in the child's best interests.

Further, I suggest reading the Indiana Court of Appeals decision in In the Matter of the Visitation of C.L.H.; B.L.H. v. G.L.H. and B.J.H. I have written on this case here. I think my liberal and gay/lesbian readers will be appalled at the facts just as my conservative readers might be appalled at the appellate court denying grandparent visitation.

I do not have all the facts of the Ohio case, so I am left to speculate. I would say under Indiana that whatever collateral effects existed because of the homosexual relationship had best lead to a change in custody when the parents were not in a homosexual relationship.

Speaking of In the Matter of the Visitation of C.L.H.; B.L.H. v. G.L.H. and B.J.H., I find that the case garnered some attention outside of Indiana. Professor Julie Shapiro has three posts on her Related Topics Blog: Lesbian Mother and Grandparent Visitation in Indiana: Who is In and Who is Out? and Lesbian Mother/Grandparent Visitation, II.

Professor Shapiro raises some interesting questions in her second post. If those reading this blog on a regular basis remember my articles on third party custody, most of those questions are answered but Professor Shapiro does raise one question that I find interesting this in Part II:

And finally, once can consider the status of KW. By the time the case came to trial, KW might have been in a position to invoke the de facto parent doctrine. (Again, I say this not with regard particularly to the law of Indiana, about which I do not have special expertise, but as an academic thinking about family law generally.) Were KW and BLH to separate, I might well argue that each is a parent to CLH and hence entitled to equal status in determining the custody of the child.
(As for any privilege the father has as biological father is mitigated somewhat in Indiana for the difference in statutes regulating visitation in a paternity case from that in a divorce case. But Ms. Shapiro's question gives an insight into why there is such a difference. For what I have written see Parenting time -where paternity and divorces meet.)

She continues her thoughts about the case into a third post, Lesbian Mother/Grandparent Visitation, III: Ruminations. Wherein she raises this hypothetical:

So I consider this hypothetical. The initial facts match those of the actual case: unmarried woman become pregnant, the man with whom she had sex has no involvment, her pregnancy is difficult, her parents support her and then the child through the first five years of the child’s life. At this point, the mother of the child embarks on a new relationship, and my hypothetical diverges from the real case. Suppose the mother’s new relationship is with a man who is a member of a small racist society. He persuades the mother of the correctness of his view and after a time she decides that she’d like him to play a parent-like role in the child’s life, inculcating the child with his racist views. The grandparents, who are far more supportive of diversity, object and seek visitation with their grandchild.

The facts here are different. But is the case legally distinguishable? Could a court reach a different conclusion consistent with the Indiana case? Do I want them to? Can I argue that in both cases the more tolerant influence should prevail, because it is better for the child and/or better for the world? I think to be consistent with my general theme in this blog, I need instead to focus on what the relationship between the various parties and the child actually is.

However, I do not see one key fact in this hypothetical: that mother's racism caused grandmother's stroke. Yes, grandmother made that comment to the lesbian mother. Put those together and I am not so sure that there is not the same stridency in the relationships. I think any time that the grandparents voice a strident dislike of the parent to the child, the grandparents have a huge gaping hole in their case.

I am also thinking that there is a difference between lesbianism and racism for the child. After all, the court focuses on the best interests of the child and not the interests of the adults. I am wholly unaware of any study showing that gay/lesbian parents affect the child's socialization. I think being raised by a racist group will have a more difficult time not being shown as a negative influence on a child's socialization. However, I think I am now verging into third party custody issues.

Also, Leonard Link reports on the case in Indiana Appeals Court Rules for Lesbian Mom on Grandparent Visitation Claim.

Divorced and Still on Marital Debt?

First, what does the Decree of Dissolution say about this debt?

If it says that one spouse was to hold harmless on the debt and then this spouse does cause harm - such as the other spouse gets sued for the debt - then spouse who was to hold the other harmless is looking at legal action against them. The legal action could be anything from contempt to a civil suit, but the emphasis will be on getting monetary reimbursement.

If the Decree says that other party is to do something positive (and this can be In conjunction with holding the other party harmless) and does not, then the other party is looking at a contempt action to do what was not done. A few months ago I reviewed a case where all the other party was to do was to list a home for sale, and they did that but the house did not sell. No contempt was my opinion. The Decree was just not specific enough about what would happen if there was no sale.

For more information on marital debts, please follow the link below to my archive of articles on this subject.

If you need a lawyer to deal with marital debt, then give me a call at 765-641-7906.

With more people doing their own divorces, I expect this will be an increasing problem - and those same people will find that these errors will mean more attorney fees paid out than if they had hired counsel for their divorce.

Remember that unless the debt is not refinanced, you remain obligated on the debt. That is simple contract law. You do not divorce your creditors, only your spouses.

However, credit cards do have a bit of an exception to this rule. A person can be an accommodation party - right to use the card but no obligation to pay. With credit cards, it needs to be known whether a party is truly obligated or merely an accommodation party.

And what if the other party files bankruptcy? If they were required to hold you harmless, then get yourself to a lawyer who knows bankruptcy law. Not all marital debts are dischargeable. I will be writing more on this in the next few months.

What is not clear is what happens if the harm is to one's credit report. If the debt was paid and the card no longer in use, then you need to follow the procedure under the Fair Credit Reporting Act to deal with credit report problems. If the problem is late payments, then it may be possible to use the divorce court's contempt powers to deal with the problem. What will be required is some showing of actual harm (such as a denial of credit).

Observations on Pro Se Cases, Part 2: You Got to Know The Territory

I know many come to this blog looking for advice on your case. Some of you are representing yourselves. While I cannot give you direct advice on your case, I can make some comments. Which is what this semi-ongoing set of "Observations" is all about.

If have never seen "The Music Man", you probably do not recognize the line about knowing the territory. Lawsuit have two sorts of territory: the law and the court.

The law includes the statutes and the rules and the case law. Not just one or other but all of it. Think of it as trying to work on a car and knowing only spark plugs without knowing an engine or a distributor cap. By the way, when you hire a lawyer that knowledge is one of several things included in your fee.

The self-represented greatly annoy me only when they do not make the effort to learn the law. Using the car metaphor again, it is like someone complaining about a car starting who do not put the car keys into the ignition.

What cannot be learned in the library - whether of brick or online - is knowing the courts. Yes, different courts treat pro se parties differently. I think our Madison County courts are liberal towards the self-represented while have seen the Ripley Circuit Court completely ignore a pro se party.

Recently, I had two separate conversation about the Marion County courts. Boiling both conversations down to the bare bones, they both had complaints about what lawyers call ex parte conversations. That is direct conversations with the parties without the other party being there.

The first conversation revolved around the judge refusing to sign the Decree of Dissolution. Judge did not explain what was wrong with the Decree. The person asked me to look at it and it appeared that the only problem was the lack of Child Support Worksheet. Now, I think the judge could have pointed out the rule requiring a Worksheet with every Decree without leaving the judicial role but that is just my opinion. The potential client did not like what I would charge him to fix the problem. I assume he has fixed the problem himself and gotten divorced - finally. This was a ssituation where the self-represented did not know the territory of the law and did not know how to get clarification from the judge.

The second conversation came from a fellow who admitted that he thought he could save money on an attorney for his custody case. He came from Michigan where he says he could talk to the judge. Not so in Indiana. (And I have doubts that Michigan judges allow unlimited ex parte conversations.) He found him stymied, frustrated and ultimately without custody of his child. He did not know how to handle himself before the court. Frankly, no one could learn this from reading but only from experience. Experience: another way of knowing the territory.

He admitted to me that he had fallen into a failure of most pro se parties of not asking questions but of arguing instead. Another aspect of knowing the territory is knowing how to handle one's self.

I feel some will think this is all self-serving but that thinking also misses the point. It is self-serving but not for the exact reason that might be expected. I do this work to make a living and it is true that I hope to attract clients. But there is more than merely making money on my mind.

I also hope to educate. Folks, you can do this work by yourself and you can make a complete hash of it. What I would prefer is prevent you making that complete hash. Cleaning up a mess that could have been prevented means more work for the lawyers - it may be even impossible to fix. By the way, that means all of your savings from not getting a lawyer in the beginning have now been lost.

The fellow with the custody case told me that he recognized now that he had not saved a dime. Looking at him, I also could see the toll that disappointment and stress had taken upon him.

Prenup Agreements: Disclose, Disclose

Interesting facts in this Georgia case, Baldwin couple’s prenup dispute to go before court and one I suppose could be duplicated here in Indiana

Angela Lawrence is appealing the decision of a trial court that ruled the prenuptial agreement she and her husband, G. Lawson Lawrence, entered into in February 2005 was valid and enforceable.

Her attorney, Martin Fierman, of Eatonton, argues that the prenuptial agreement is not binding because only one witness signed the agreement and because Lawson Lawrence did not fully disclose his income and assets.

Under state law, any contract “made in contemplation of marriage” must be verified by at least two witnesses in order to be valid.

But the husband’s attorney, Kice Stone, argues that the agreement was not “made in contemplation of marriage,” but, rather, “in contemplation of divorce” and that it therefore did not need two witnesses.

Angela Lawrence’s attorney also contends that Angela Lawrence was never fully informed of her husband’s assets before signing the agreement, which further invalidates the contract under the law.

Lawson Lawrence’s attorney says in the paperwork that the claim is irrelevant, because Angela Lawrence freely signed the agreement and lived with him two years before they wed, long enough to have full knowledge of his income level. She was advised to have an attorney review the agreement prior to signing it, but she declined to do so.
The better practice - what is in my subject line. Nothing hurt by making a full disclosure and lot saved in fees for trial and appeals.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Parentectomy - A New Term From Ohio

I am not so sure that agree with all of Ohio Family Law Blog's Preventing a Parentectomy After Divorce but the differences are a bit on the minor side and on the whole this needs some serious consideration by everyone.

According to Dr. Williams, a ”parentectomy” is the removal, erasure, or severe diminution of a caring parent in a child’s life, following separation or divorce. A parentectomy is the most cruel infringement upon children’s rights to be carried out against human children by human adults. Parentectomies are psychologically lethal to children and parents.

The consequences for a child may be that he or she is actually abandoned by a parent who became burned out by years of court fights and battling a pervasive pattern of alienation known as parental alienation syndrome (PAS). According to Dr. Williams, that while kids hate to see battling parents, they misinterpret a parent giving up the fight as that parent not caring enough about them. “These children frequently become depressed - especially in later adolescence. At times their depression reaches suicidal proportions. In my own clinical work, as well as in school and emergency room consultation experience during the past 15 years, I have found a very high correlation between suicidality in adolescents and a divorce in their earlier years, which virtually results in one parent being erased from their lives.”

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These prevention measures, which are presented in the spirit of suggestions and based on clinical experience, include:

1. Person contemplating marriage and children should consider a proposed mate’s tendency toward relying on the role of being a parent as his or her exclusive identity. Such persons may need to rely totally on full-time control over the children for identity following divorce.
2. One should try to fall in love with and have children with a mate who has great empathy for children’s needs and feelings. A mother or father with empathy who loves his or her children will usually not subject the children to a parent removal.
3. One should not separate from one’s mate without a scheduled, structured, legal custody arrangement in advance of parting the marital relationship.
4. Once separated, a parent should never speak with and certainly should never see a mental health professional - other than a court appointed one - that he or she has not helped choose in advance; and should further avoid like the plague a friendly-sounding psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker, or counselor, who calls and says he or she wants to help the parents and children through the pain of divorce. This is especially so when that professional has already seen the children and the other parent.
5. Parents should seek and hopefully find attorneys not biased by the conviction that all children need a primary home and a primary caretaker after divorce.
6. The first moment it becomes clear that scheduled custodial time with one’s child is being consistently blocked, the parent so blocked should run (not walk) with his or her attorney to the nearest family court.”

Why A Prenup?

When I think I will stop posting articles from the press about why a prenuptial is a good for anyone, I run across one that is just different enough to make the cut.

Top Five Reasons to Sign a Prenuptial Agreement
takes the prize for its blunt realism. I especially liked these:

2. Love is blind

Sometimes, we can't see the wood for the trees; humans are fallible, we all make mistakes. When we're in love, these mistakes are all the more likely to occur as the chemical dopamine takes us over. As humans, we do make mistakes - but the point is to learn from them. We've all seen disastrous divorces in the media, where someone leaves with far less money than they entered the marriage with; these people were in love once, too. Learn from their mistakes rather than your own.

3. There's no harm in being prepared.

Look at it like this; when you get in a car, you put a seatbelt on. That doesn't mean you are planning to crash the car, just that you're ready for the worst should it happen. It doesn't mean you're saying you're a bad driver, or that you don't trust other road users, it's just about being safe. A prenuptial agreement should be viewed in exactly the same way.

4. Weigh up the win/lose scale.

If you do make a prenuptial agreement, you may seem unromantic and like you are trying to focus on the bad rather than the good. If you don't agree a prenuptial agreement, you could lose all of your assets, find yourself homeless and at the mercy of a judge you don't know and who doesn't know you. Most people would rather be protected and viewed as a little unromantic than risk the latter.

And what came first? "1. You may not always be in love and happy." Ouch. True but still ouch

Good Advice About Insurance and Estate Planning

I like how Massachusetts Divorce and Wills Lawyer Blog wrote (Almost) All About Life Insurance:

First, the beneficiary designation of your life insurance is very important. If it is a large policy, for tax reasons, you might want to consider having the beneficiary of the life insurance be a trust that you set up instead of your wife or children.

Second, if you name your children as the beneficiaries, remember that minor children cannot inherit money outright. Besides, if you had a million dollar life insurance policy, do you really want your 10-year old child to carry around a million dollars with them, to spend as they wish? Didn’t think so.

Third, if you’re thinking about buying life insurance, in addition to speaking with a financial advisor, speak with an estate planning attorney as well. For estate tax purposes, sometimes it is better to have life insurance bought a certain way by either your spouse or a trust, then to buy and insure yourself. If you don’t have a will and estate plan, when you think of buying life insurance, it’s a very good time to consult with an estate planning attorney and simply have everything set up all at once. It’ll save you and/or your loved ones a lot of grief and heartache down the road
With so much going on I have not had much time to write about estate planning and family law. Divorce should be a key point in estate planning - reviewing insurance policies, new Will (or a Will, if you do not have one). If you are divorced and not reviewed your estate planning, get to a lawyer as soon as possible,

Friday, July 24, 2009

Paying Child Support in Georgia - Not The Same as Indiana

Georgia Family Law Blog's New Options for Child Support Payments has something that scares us Indiana lawyers and may not be allowed by our statute (is not if I understand the Georgia process correctly):

Most people do not want to use the government agencies to transfer the support from payor to payee. The parties have been involved in the court system during the divorce process. After the conclusion of the case they want to handle things privately, outside of government involvement. The solution: payment of child support online by credit card through a private company, rather than the government. Using a rewards credit card to pay support could allow the payor to earn cash back rewards or frequent flyer points. Better yet, setting up payments on a recurring basis would be convenient to the payor. The benefit to the recipient would be receiving the full amount of support conveniently directly deposited into their account whether they are home or not on the date support is scheduled to arrive. Bringing the payment of child support into the 21st century would prevent a lot of post-divorce conflict that too often happens.

The company was established to provide divorced parties with “the peaceful way to pay”, minimizing interaction between the parties, while providing them with a way to make and receive support directly and on time. For further information, visit jennifer@supportcertain.comor at 404 551-4849.
I have people who do not want to pay through the County Clerk. I have others who have paid directly to the custodial parent. I use the example of the the second group to explain what is wrong with the first group's parents. The County Clerk maintains a support docket showing every payment and those can be relied on more easily than memory, the custodial parent's records or the non-custodial parent's records in a dispute over what has been actually paid by the non-custodial parent. That is crucial when facing a contempt citation or a felony non-support charge.

For the statutes on one variety of child support payments that must be paid through the county clerk, follow this link.

Indiana's Mortgage Foreclosure Task Force

I am highlighting The Mortgage Foreclosure Task Force web page today. Mostly for the lawyers (because it gives a schedule of CLE for mortgage cases) but there is a map showing the highest foreclosures (with Madison County being one of the highest) and a link to a FTC video (homeowners should go there)

Indiana Case: Another New Grandparent Visitation Case

The Indiana Court of Appeals handed down In Re: The visitation of C.R.P.; B.M. v. J.J.P., on July 20. At issue was the grandparent's standing to bring the grandparent visitation case.

The grandmother petitioning for visitation was the paternal grandmother of a child whose mother had died and whose father had voluntarily terminated his parental rights.

The Court of Appeals decided that paternal grandmother could not bring the grandparent visitation case because she was not the mother of the dead parent.

Why not? Because that is what the statute allows. Here is how the Court of Appeals decided the case:

In pertinent part, Indiana Code section 31-17-5-1 provides that a child’s grandparent may seek visitation rights if the child’s parent is deceased. For the purposes of the GVA, Indiana Code section 31-9-2-77 defines a “maternal or paternal grandparent” as:
(1) the adoptive parent of the child’s parent;
(2) the parent of the child’s adoptive parent; and
(3) the parent of the child’s parent.
As noted by the trial court, when read together, the statutes provide that a parent of the child’s parent may seek visitation rights if the child’s parent is deceased. The “child’s parent” referred to in code section 31-17-5-1 is the same person as the “child’s parent” referred to in code section 31-9-2-77. Therefore, the GVA confers standing only upon grandparents who are the parents of the deceased parent of the child. Here, Grandmother is not the parent of the child’s deceased parent, and she does not have standing under the statute to seek visitation. The trial court did not err when it dismissed Grandmother’s petition.
Opinion at 3 -4.

Quite often I get comments and/or e-mails that there are not grandparent rights in Indiana, and I have to wonder if those people have read the statute. What they may not have read about is how the appellate courts interpret the statute. The following is from this opinion at page 3:
Grandparents must have standing as prescribed under the GVA in order to seek visitation rights. Maser, 809 N.E.2d at 432 (citations omitted). The primary purpose of standing is to ensure that the party before the court has a substantive right to enforce the claim being made. In re J.D.G., 756 N.E.2d 509, 511 (Ind. Ct. App. 2001). If the grandparent lacks standing, then the petition must be dismissed as a matter of law. Id.

The GVA was enacted in derogation of the common law and must be strictly construed. In re Visitation of J.P.H., 709 N.E.2d 44, 46 (Ind. Ct. App. 1999). In construing a statute, statutes in pari materia should also be considered together to effectuate legislative intent. Horn v. Hendrickson, 824 N.E.2d 690, 698 (Ind. Ct. App. 2005); In re Visitation of J.P.H., 709 N.E.2d at 46.
If you do not meet the standing requirements, you cannot file a petition for grandparent visitation.

If you do meet the standing requirements, you cna file and then you will need to prove your case.

For those who think they have a grandparent visitation case or those who have to defend a grandparent visitation case, give me a call at 765-641-7906 if you need legal counsel.

Divorce Support on the Web

Frankly, The London Time's headline With this website I thee divorce oversells and undersells:

Like tens of thousands of men and women facing divorce, Jane was at her wits’ end when she turned to the internet. There she found wikivorce.com, an online support group for couples facing the end of their marriage. The website, which was launched two years ago and boasts a new visitor every minute, is an online community that offers free access to information, support and advice for people going through divorce or separation.

While online chats about divorce and marriage troubles are multiplying on sites such as mumsnet and iVillage, specialist sites such as ondivorce.co.uk and divorce-online.co.uk, which claims 31,000 members, appear to be proof that divorcing couples are increasingly seeking friendship and advice anonymously and online through chat rooms and the blogosphere. But will these burgeoning internet divorce chat rooms mean an end to acrimonious courtroom battles and the need for professional relationship counsellors?

Anyone having any experience with these sites, I ask you to use the comments section below

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Cohabitation Statutes: Colorado Has One Now and So Does Victoria

About the new Colorado statute, I am relying on New state law offers legal rights to unmarried couples. The article points out the advantages this law has for everyone:

While any two consenting and legally eligible adults in the state can take advantage of the new law, same-sex partners and some senior citizens in particular stand to gain important new protections by entering into a designated beneficiary agreement.

Under this law, any two adults can complete, sign and record with their county clerk a simple DBA form — available on-line — delegating to each other important financial and end-of-life decisions that, under current statutes, likely would revert to family members in the event of one partner’s death without a will.

The agreement can be revoked by either partner at any time with another simple form filed with the county clerk.

A legally executed will would supersede the designated beneficiary agreement.

The rights available to designated beneficiaries include the power to make medical decisions for the partner, guardianship of an incapacitated partner, dependent status for health insurance eligibility, assignment of life insurance benefits, hospital visitation rights and end-of-life decisions, including burial arrangements.

Property rights are ensured by provisions to facilitate financial planning, recognize joint ownership of assets and provide for automatic inheritance of property in the absence of a will.

A designated beneficiary would also have the right to sue for wrongful death in the event of a partner’s death, a right not previously permitted under Colorado law.

The article points out a fact that I suspect applies to Indiana, at least my part of Indiana:
Though largely under the statistical radar, one of the fastest growing categories of couples living together without benefit of marriage is senior citizens. The 2000 Census determined that the percentage of unmarried couples 65 and older “rose significantly” in the previous decade, while Forbes Magazine reported that the number of heterosexual “unmarried partner households” increased by 50 percent between 2000 and 2006.

Ninety-nine percent of cohabiting senior couples are widowed, separated, or divorced.
Over in Australia, Will Vault published Family Law - Cohabitation Agreement Pursuant To Section 285 Of The Property Law Act 1958 (vic.) Compare this with the Colorado statute:
Whilst Victoria, along with other State Parliaments, save for Western Australia, have agreed to refer their powers over defacto and same-sex property matters to the Federal Government, Victorian courts still exercise power over cohabitation agreements entered into between two partners who intend to live together. This power is exercised in Victoria under Section 285 of the Property Law Act 1958 (Vic.). This section gives Victorian courts the authority to adjust the interest of domestic partners in property which either or both may own in terms that appear just and equitable having regard to a number of factors such as:

- Financial and non-financial contributions made directly or indirectly by the domestic partners to acquiring or improving any property; and

- Contributions made by either of the domestic partners as to the welfare of the other domestic partner or to the welfare of the family including any children.

Increasingly, partners considering cohabitation (as opposed to formal marriage), and either have no children from previous relationships or who do not wish to have any children from the current relationship, are entering into cohabitation agreements pursuant to the Victorian Property Law Act 1958.

The primary purpose of such a cohabitation agreement is to protect the assets of each party in the future. The agreement provides that should the relationship end, each party will leave the relationship with those assets which he or she brought into the relationship. Only jointly acquired assets fall into the asset pool for distribution by Victorian courts pursuant to the powers provided by Section 285.
And a difference, which I think is key (why have an agreement if it does not determine the outcome in a breakup?):
Clients should be advised, however, that agreements under Section 285 of the Property Law Act are not definitive. Such cohabitation agreements will not necessarily finally determine the distribution of assets in the event of a relationship breakdown. However, the cohabitation agreements may be taken into account by Victorian courts in their determination of what is a just and equitable resolution of the distribution of property when the domestic relationship has ended.
I suspect that our General Assembly will take its time in considering any cohabitation law, but we can hope. They will do nothing unless people start asking for such a law. If you think it is a good idea, let your state representative and Senator know about it.

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What Are Your Win-Loss Stats?

That question is the wrong one, as Dick Price points out in What are My Chances of Winning? on his Divorce and Family Law in Tarrant County, Texas blog:

Instead of pressing the attorney to give a prediction of success, a more productive conversation would be about these issues:

* What is my real goal? Sometimes the real goal is to get a better visitation schedule or reduction in child support even though someone starts off asking for custody. Some reflection by you and the attorney about this issue can lead to the development of a plan that really relates to what's important to you.
* Is it possible to achieve? If the goal is paying no child support, it may not be possible in one set of facts while it may be likely under a different scenario. Likewise a 50-50 arrangement of time with the children may be feasible if the parties work together well and live pretty close together. On the other hand, if the parents constantly fight (even post divorce) or if they live a considerable distance apart, for example, it is unlikely that the parents can share equal time with the children.
* What can I do to improve my chances of attaining my goal? Doing some brainstorming for steps to take and then implementing the ideas can really improve your chances of success. If you are really committed to success and work in constructive ways, you will have a better chance of prevailing. (Of course, I can't tell you how likely it is that you will succeed.)

What should remember from all this? First, forget about calculating the odds of success for you case. Second, help yourself by following the above three steps. Good luck!
I am far more compressed in my responses to this question. I explain that unlike my business lawsuits or baseball, wins in family law cases are far less clear-cut. Not all problems are solved by the court's judgment. Mr. Price nails it when he writes about goals. Know what goals you want and which ones the courts can give you.

New Indiana Case: Grandparent Visitation Denied

Last month, the Indiana Court of Appeals handed down In the Matter of the Visitation of C.L.H.; B.L.H. v. G.L.H. and B.J.H.. Which I am now thinking may be a rather important grandparent visitation case.

Summarizing the facts rather bluntly: mother and parents have good relationship with one another during the early years of child's life until mother begins relationship with another woman.

Here is the visitation schedule given to the grandparents:

Accordingly, the trial court ordered that Grandparents are to have visitation with C.L.H. for ten hours per month. In addition, Grandparents are to have visitation with C.L.H. for eleven hours on Grandmother‟s birthday each year, eleven hours on the Saturday before C.L.H.‟s birthday each year, one overnight during Christmas break each year, eleven hours on “Grandparents Day,” and two overnights each in June and July every year.
Opinion at page 11.

The opinion provides a good overview of The Primacy of Parental Rights (page 12) and suggest that be read by all grandparents seeking visitation (and maybe even some parents).

The Court of Appeals restates the current case law on grandparent visitation (page 13 - 14) with a reminder that the grandparents face the burden of rebutting a parent's denial of visitation. Which may also serve as a reminder that Indian has rights for a grandparent (unlike some comments made before on this blog) but that they do not ordinarily trump parental rights.

Mother argued that the judgment was unsupported by the evidence and the Court of Appeals answered:
Here, the trial court‟s visitation order is not supported by its findings or the undisputed evidence. The record reveals a significant level of discord between Grandparents and Mother due to Mother‟s relationship with K.W. and K.W.‟s relationship with C.L.H. The trial court found that the parties had “hurt” one another, but the court‟s order does not indicate that it considered the totality of the circumstances in determining the best interests of C.L.H.

The GAL found that Mother‟s reasons for denying Grandparents visitation “are valid given the interactions between the family members over the last year or so.” Appellant‟s App. at 159. While a trial court is not required to accept a parent‟s reasons for denying visitation with grandparents as necessarily true, Hicks, 884 N.E.2d at 875, here, the undisputed evidence shows that Mother is a reasonable person and has a rational basis for the decision, which she did not come to easily. The trial court did not make any finding regarding the validity or reasonableness of Mother‟s decision.
Opinion at 15 -16.

Some miscellaneous points:
  1. The GAL was originally objected to by Mother but the GAL report supported Mother. Sometimes what we think will not be an aid is one.
  2. The excerpted GAL report is the kind of report I would always like to see - not so much for its supporting the case but for its content striking me as professional and truly investigative.
  3. A reminder that family law remains a court of equity is this sentence: "Grandparents did not have clean hands when they filed their petition for visitation." (Opinion at 15).
  4. I see here a good example of how wrong a trial judge can get and the solution, an appeal.
  5. While a reminder that conservative Indiana does not disfavor gay and lesbian parents, it is better to remember the paramount place given to the child's best interests.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Looking to Lower Cost of a Divorce?

I do not necessarily agree with Domestic Diversions' Rush to judgment: how to lower the costs of divorce as I think mediation increases the cost of a divorce. The people have to pay for the mediator and then pay someone to make sure that the terms are properly put before the court. (I assume that the parties have assets, including real estate, and/or children and those issues lead to the mediation).

Divorce mediation, in which a neutral third party helps a couple negotiate an agreement, is an even cheaper alternative for folks who can still bare to sit at the same table. Doskow estimates it costs about half as much as a contested divorce. But the expense isn’t the only reason she’s a proponent. “I like mediation because it keeps the decision making with the people who are most invested in it,” she says.
I assume the original writer meant "bear" and not "bare" but therein lies the real problem with mediation - for me - if the parties can agree then they should just pass Go and find an attorney who will do an uncontested divorce for them. A lot of money is saved by the lack of fighting.

All the same, remember mediation is an option. You need to decide if it is a feasible option for you.

I cannot find any fault with SmartMoney.com's The Top 5ive Mistakes to Avoid When Getting Divorced at SmartMoney.com and especially the first "mistake" on its list:
GETTING DIVORCED CAN be a daunting experience. After all, you're not only breaking up with your spouse, but you're also carving up your assets and the time you spend with your children (if you have them). With so much emotional and logistical baggage to deal with, the entire process can be lengthy and expensive. However, with just a little planning, you can avoid some of the most common — and costly — pitfalls that divorcing couples experience.

Here are the top five mistakes you should avoid when splitting with your husband or wife.
1. Being Unprepared
Always keep in mind that divorce attorneys charge by the hour. In some major cities, those rates can climb as high as $200 to $300 an hour. That's all the more reason why it's important to do as much of your own legwork as possible. For example, in order to start splitting up you and your spouse's assets, your lawyer will need copies of all your financial and legal documents, including tax returns, bank statements and a list of your outstanding debt. By gathering and organizing the paperwork on your own, you can easily save several hundred dollars, says Daniel Clement, a New York-based divorce attorney. Leave the paper chase to your attorney, and you're basically paying him to compile what's sitting in your mailbox, he says.
Do give the other four a read.

Cohabitation Agreements - Good Advice From Canada

While writing of Canada, The Importance of Cohabitation Agreements in Canada sets outs quite well why a cohabitation agreement is a good idea down here in Indiana:

We already wrote about the growing number of divorces and sadly the numbers are rising. If we set aside the emotional consequences of a divorce we will still have the financial consequences, which can be much more serious. So an agreement regulating such terms for non-married people is also very important. Also it is a good solution for people who already had a divorce and are seeking more protected and less serious family union. If you feel that there is an imbalance in your relationship, this agreement also can be useful. For example if you are wealthier than your partner, have recently received an inheritance, or you are the owner of a business or home, cohabitation agreement will protect your financial assets. Also if your partner has children from previous marriages it will be useful to regulate all the child support related issues in this type of agreement. Many people view such agreements in a negative way, because it shows that both sides are seriously considering a break up. But it is wrong, love is blind and the consequences of a break up can be very serious. Cohabitation Agreement is simply a very useful document and most probably after you've signed it you will feel more secure and live happily ever after. Just be sure to have an experienced family lawyer nearby, when you are writing a cohabitation agreement.
Rather good for a blog called The Best Estate Lawyers.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

George Lazenby and His Prenup

I hate to take potshots at a fellow who once had a distinction of being a trivia question for the James Bond films but I find myself with little sympathy from these reports.

George Lazenby wants to annul prenup with Pam Shiver

He claims that Shiver is “30 times a millionaire”, and that he doesn’t want to explain the difference in their lifestyles to their kids, five-year-old George, Jr. and twins Kate and Sam, three.
Er, may I suggest that those are not very good grounds for attacking a prenup? Hard to think of Sean Connery making that complaint or even Roger Moore. On the other hand, George does seem to be working on the Anthony Quinn late-in-life-fatherhood award.
Former 007 Wants Money Galore from Wife

It's not like George is broke -- he's got over a mil to his name -- but apparently 1/30th of $30 mil = poor.
Okay, that is an example of the pun I am talking about and an inappropriate one at that. Connery was in Goldfinger which had the character Pussy Galore.

Point to impress here is that if you have a million dollars, you can more than afford good legal counsel when the intended hands you the prenuptial agreement.

Another bad pun found in Former James Bond Actor Wants More Money than a Penny from Ex-Wife but, oh boy, this paragraph hits what will be the problem:
While this move seems a little over the top, Lazenby has in fact filed a request for a voided prenuptial agreement with the L.A. County Superior Court in hopes that Shriver will have to pay him $16,133 in spousal support. It should be noted that Lazenby is in fact a millionaire himself, so his request for financial support seems excessively greedy and unlikely to succeed.
Without more of the facts, I got to say this does sound like excessive greed and that does not sit very well with the judges I know.

Indiana Child Support Contempt - A Defense

There are old Indiana case law states the proposition that child support is not to drive a person into poverty. Not all judges give that a liberal interpretation. While I do not have the citations available, I do want to pass along the federal poverty guidelines for 2009 from the Department of Health and Human Services:

The 2009 Poverty Guidelines for the
48 Contiguous States and the District of Columbia
Persons in family Poverty guideline
1 $10,830
2 14,570
3 18,310
4 22,050
5 25,790
6 29,530
7 33,270
8 37,010
For families with more than 8 persons, add $3,740 for each additional person.

Indiana Case: Relocation and Change of Custody

A bit late reporting on In the Matter of the Paternity of: Ba.S. and Br.S; Kimberly C. v. Barry S. due to my hiatus. This is the latest progeny of Baxendale v. Raich, 878 N.E.2d 1252 (Ind. 2008).

We have a case where mother files notice to relocate and father objects and petitions for change of custody. Trial court gives father custody. Mother argues "the trial court violated her due process rights and its decision runs afoul of public policy concerns."

The Indiana Court of Appeals upheld the trial court.

The facts are as follows:

Mother is the mother of Ba.S., born on January 6, 2002, and Br.S., born on December 16, 2003. Father was adjudicated the children‟s father in an agreed order filed with the trial court on April 11, 2008. In the order, the parties agreed to share joint legal custody of the children, and that Father would “pick up the children from day care on Fridays and the [M]other shall pick up the children from [F]ather‟s care on Sundays. Appellant‟s App. p. 1. On the date the agreed order was filed, Mother resided in Valparaiso, Indiana and Father resided in Maywood, Illinois. Mother‟s and Father‟s extended families generally reside in those areas as well.

In 2008, Mother married Levi A., who had enlisted in the Navy. In May 2008, Levi A. was deployed to a military base in Norfolk, Virginia. On May 15, 2008, Mother notified Father and the trial court that she intended to move the children to Norfolk, Virginia. Father objected to Mother‟s proposed relocation of the children and also filed a Petition to Modify Custody. The trial court appointed George Ivancevich to serve as the guardian ad litem (“the GAL”). Evidentiary hearings on the parties‟ motions were held on June 6, June 28, and August 15, 2008. In his reports and testimony at the hearing, the GAL opined that custody of the children should be modified and Father should be awarded custody.
I have opined before that the age of the children seems an important component in these relocation cases but that component seems a bit absent here. Unfortunately, the Court of Appeals does not directly address this points because mother did not argue such a point.

In some ways the arguments she said are more interesting because they are a bit uncommon. The Court of Appeals made short shrift of her constitutional argument:
We agree that Mother‟s decision to relocate is valid and appears to be made in good faith. But, in her argument, Mother fails to acknowledge Father‟s own constitutional right to parent the children. Mother and Father agreed to joint legal custody in the April 11, 2008 agreed order. In this case, the trial court heard the testimony of both parents and considered the GAL‟s extensive investigation as to whether relocation was in the children‟s best interests. As our supreme court has observed, Mother‟s due process right to travel and parent her children may be impinged upon where such relocation is not in the children‟s best interests. Indeed, decisions as to the custody of children always involve a balance between competing, legitimate parental interests, some of which are constitutional in magnitude, and the trial court must always take those interests into account as it determines whether a change of custody is in the children‟s best interests.
Pages 8- 9 with a footnote omitted. That is my emphasis above and not in the original opinion.

And what was the public policy argument? This is the argument and the Court of Appeals' response:
Finally, Mother argues that “it is violative of public policy to require the wife of an active duty member of the United States Navy to make” the choice of either remaining with her husband while he is on active duty or living apart from her husband but retaining custody of her children. Br. of Appellant at 25. Further, Mother asserts that the trial court‟s conclusion that deployments and possible future relocations would disrupt the stability of the children‟s lives is also a violation of public policy.

We acknowledge the significant sacrifice members of the military and their families make for their service to our country. However, Mother appears to argue that such military service, here by a step-parent, trumps Indiana‟s statutory and common law consideration of the best interests of the children. This is not the case.

Clever but, I think, would have been better made by a parent rather than a step-parent. Every custodial parent relocating from Indiana faces the same choice as by the mother here.

Other than acknowledging the non-custodial parent's constitutional rights, I am not sure that this case gives us any broader insights into what is makes relocation in a child's best interest or not.

Remember, if you want more information about retaining me for a case, please give me a call at 765-641-7906.

Monday, July 20, 2009

What Should a Family Lawyer Know?

What New Family Law Attorneys Need To Know from Family Law Prof Blog tried to answer. I think they are all good. Would that clients understood better what we do, can do, and that we could explain all this to them.
Here is a summary of their responses:

* The Honorable Doris Huspeni of the Minnesota Court of Appeals, who began her career as a family court referee, advised, “Be realistic. You need to be able to counsel your client as to reasonable expectations.” She urged the importance of civility among members of the bar as necessary to effective advocacy.
* Marty Swaden of the Swaden Law Offices echoed these sentiments. He emphasized the importance of knowing the people involved in a family law dispute – the judge, the client and opposing counsel. He was especially concerned that young attorneys sometimes believe that they have to have a tough, aggressive, and defensive attitude to be effective. He emphasized the need for new attorneys to appreciate that there needs to be a good working relationship with opposing counsel so that the case can get resolved.
* Nancy Zalusky Berg of the firm Walling, Berg, & Debele said, “Get yourself out of the way.” She commented on the importance of family law attorneys understanding themselves and how their own experience of family can impact their representation of their clients. Gary Debele of the same firm advised new lawyers to think of themselves as problem solvers first rather than advocates and litigators. As a problem solver, he suggests three key questions: “What does the client want? Is what the client wants, reasonable and feasible? And How do you get to that result?”
* Angie Banga, who serves as a Guardian ad Litem in family court, reminded the group of the importance of teaching the damage that high conflict divorces does to children. She suggested, “Remember to be flexible – a good family court attorney is flexible; able to shift their thinking when they get new information. They need to understand when they have drawn the short straw – everybody gets a client who’s case is weak."
* Attorney Andrea Niemi of Niemi, Jerabek, & Kretchmer was concerned at the degree to which new attorneys are advising each other rather than finding a mentor. She emphasized the need for new attorneys to learn how to find someone who knows what they are doing and how to access their expertise.
* Karen Irvin, of the Minnesota Mediation and Counseling Center, urged family law professors to teach family law student to think in terms of family systems: to think beyond the individuals they are representing to understanding the impacts on the entire family system.
* Mindy Mitnick, of the Uptown Mental Health Clinic, emphasized the importance of learning to work with mental health professionals. “Lawyers are from Mars; mental health professionals are from Venus,” she quipped.