Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Examining Indiana's Parenting Time Guidelines: A CHILD’S BASIC NEEDS

Continuing my examination of Indiana's Parenting Time Guidelines, I am discussing today the section labeled as "A CHILD’S BASIC NEEDS". I am quoting only portions and not all of The Parenting Time Guidelines and adding my comments as I go along. Please remember that my comments that do not quote case law are only opinion and not authoritative.

I offer only one comment to the following: the parents who do not absorb these concepts will find themselves with a hard case to make - regardless of whether the parent wants to change or enforce their parenting time.

To insure more responsible parenting and to promote the healthy adjustment and growth of a child each parent should recognize and address a child’s basic needs:

1. To know that the parents’ decision to live apart is not the child’s fault.

2. To develop and maintain an independent relationship with each parent and to have the continuing care and guidance from each parent.

3. To be free from having to side with either parent and to be free from conflict between the parents.

4. To have a relaxed, secure relationship with each parent without being placed in a position to manipulate one parent against the other.

5. To enjoy regular and consistent time with each parent.

6. To be financially supported by each parent, regardless of how much time each parent spends with the child.

7. To be physically safe and adequately supervised when in the care of each parent and to have a stable, consistent and responsible child care arrangement when not supervised by a parent.

8. To develop and maintain meaningful relationships with other significant adults (grandparents, stepparents and other relatives) as long as these relationships do not interfere with or replace the child’s primary relationship with the parents.

I would ask that if you have anything to say about any experiences with the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines that you use the Comments function below. It may be a benefit to others.

If you want to read my previous articles on parenting time, just click the link below next to word Label. If you need an attorney for a parenting time case, give me a call.


Anonymous said...

I think these points you have brought to the forefront are the most critical. Children will always want their parents to be together. When they lose this through Divorce/Separation they become vulnerable, they grieve, lash out, overreact. It is vitally apparent and important that the parents unselfishly put their childrens needs first regardless of any other factors!!

Sam Hasler said...

I could not agree more with the sentiments of the anonymous poster. Great way to save on stress and attorney fees.