Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Surviving Divorce: The Love Coach's 100 Tips

Healthy Separation: 100 Tips and Resources to Get You Through a Divorce has not only tips but links to blogs and online forums for support and information.

I would particularly want to highlight these tips (yes, the numbers off from the original).:

  1. Set realistic goals. Like with any breakup, it’s going to take time to get over your divorce. Set personal goals for yourself that are both challenging and realistic to help you get back on track.
  2. Get to know the laws of your state. Depending on the state you’re in, what you’re entitled to after a divorce can vary widely. Read up on divorce law in your state to find out what you’ll be facing in court.
  3. Protect your assets. You may think it can’t happen to you, but some spouses have drained joint accounts, racked up huge expenses and more when they know divorce is on the horizon. As soon as you can, dissolve joint accounts, resolve life insurance policies and make sure other valuables are in a secure, third-party location until the divorce is over.
  1. Keep it civil. You may be fighting mad at your spouse but screaming at them and being unnecessarily mean won’t make you feel any better. Keep things as calm and as civil as you can.
  2. Be reasonable. Marriage is all about compromise and so is divorce. Be reasonable in what you expect to ta
  1. ke away from it so neither of you end up with additional animosity towards one another.

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