Saturday, December 8, 2007


With mediation popping up fairly often, I think I need to create a separate listing for mediation articles. Divorce Solicitor published Mediation and I say it needs to be read even by Americans:

"Anyone who feels able to do so and who is able to stand up to their ex. If you were bullied throughout your relationship or if there are issues of domestic violence then mediation will probably not assist you. Some people really do present a double personality to the world so go with your gut instinct. I had a friend who was working shifts with a guy whose wife had kicked him out and he spent the whole time crying which was driving my friend mad. In the end he told him to ring her and explain how much he missed her. My friend said he felt sorry for him and thought that his wife must have it in her heart to reconsider given how heartbroken the poor guy was. Anyway ............... he overheard the conversation - he said he spoke to the woman as if she was dirt, was swearing and shouting and abusing her and in the end she hung up on him and he continued to swear into mid air. No doubt his lawyer would consider him a suitable candidate for mediation and conclude that the wife had made up her allegations of abuse!!! Similarly, I had a client years ago whose wife bullied him remorselessly but he was determined that no one else should know!!!!"
Agreements work only if people can agree. I know that seems self-evident but I find myself repeating that self-evident bit of knowledge to all sorts of people. Read the whole article for its point applies to everyone in a divorce situation regardless of location.

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